There was a time, when women stayed home to care for the children, did not vote, and did not make money of their own. Luckily, we’ve since achieved a sense of equality as citizens. Unfortunately, that equality has not come without a price. As modern day women, we work just as hard as men, but on average, still earn less. We parent just as much as men, and often as not, more because it is ingrained in us to try and be that Hallmark mom, but still must bear the burden of pregnancy. We deal with the emotional, physical, and economic stresses just as much as men, but now, studies show that our hearts do not get as much help during these stressful times.
Researchers at Penn State conducted a study to find out how the heart and blood pressure of men and women differed when presented with mental stress. All subjects were given the same problems and were monitored carefully to see how they dealt with the pressure. The hearts of both men and women started working harder as the stress mounted, as was expected. The amount of blood flow to the heart increased in men in order to make up for the extra work, but it did not increase in women. This was a surprising discovery. Professor Chester Ray, who led the study, believes this “shows women may be more susceptible to experiencing a cardiac event with mental stress compared to men.” With heart attacks being much more common in women than in men, their results are helping doctors understand why. Hopefully, these findings will encourage more women to seek a doctor’s advice when they feel stress that seems to be affecting their heart.
What does this boil down to? It boils down to the fact that women need to begin to realize that they need to demand the help that they deserve and need. We simply cannot be everything to everyone all of the time. We need to set priorities, and stick to them. My new memoir, “Something to Prove” chronicles my life as a woman who balances career, home and family; hopefully serving as a roadmap for other adventurous women. Different times in our lives call for different priorities. Being a harried mother may be just as stressful as meeting an office deadline or being the sole caretaker of infirm parents or performing difficult surgery. We are not superwomen, though if you look at what a majority of women accomplish on a day-to-day basis, we might as well be; even without the additional pressure that put on ourselves trying to “do it all”. All women who have children have one job, if she works outside the home, then she has two jobs, and if you are also cook, cleaner, and overall the “go-to” person, you might just have three jobs. And this is considered normal… It’s no wonder women are stressed.
Although psychological studies have shown that women feel they are “expected to possess many diverse traits and behaviors, such as being both competitive and nurturing, compliant and assertive, and to appear in control without any signs of vulnerability,” they need to realize these expectations contradict themselves and are simply not realistic. If your lifestyle has caused you to deal with inordinate amounts of stress, your mental, emotional, and physical health will suffer if you don’t make a change. A study at the Chinese University of Hong Kong found that women who had more satisfying jobs and home lives were less likely to develop as much mental stress, even though they had the same amount of responsibilities as others. I love ballroom dancing and I twirl around the dance floor each week with a cha-cha or tango in order to de-stress and have a creative outlet. In other words, find something that you love doing and it won’t take quite as much of a toll on your health. With this in mind, you can still be a modern day woman and take on numerous responsibilities, but you shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. As a physician, author, wife, and mother, I know that finding this balance can be difficult, but your heart is worth it.
— Yvonne S. Thornton, M. D., M. P. H.
